Welcome to The Softer Side of Single blog!
What is this all about, anyway?
I began writing a book nine years ago that speaks from my perspective as a Christian single woman, trying to reconcile my relationship with God and my ongoing desire for human companionship (ah-hem, marriage). In this blog, I want to share with you some of the principles from the book, which I hope to make available in full (either in print and/or electronically) in the coming months!
Because this comes from my experience as a Christian single woman, this message will probably speak most to Christian single women. However, I hope no matter what your gender, marital status, or faith may be, that you will find a way to benefit from the material we discuss. If this interests you, please read on…
WHAT IT IS, WHAT IT ISN’T:
This is not a blog about coping with being single! I’ve read plenty of books about coping, and all they did was cause me to think about being single all the more! It’s like saying, “Don’t think about purple elephants.” What are you thinking about, right? So what’s the difference here?
It is a place you can come to learn how to embrace Single as a gift from God for where you are right now. Instead of trying to pretend the longing for companionship isn’t there, we’ll talk about how it actually fits into God’s plan for our lives and how the gift of Single reflects the heart of a loving Father toward us.
This is not a support group where you can always find someone saying what you want to hear.
It is a place where you can find Truth (His Name is Jesus), and the Truth, although presented in love, may make you uncomfortable sometimes. I’d rather give you Truth that doesn’t feel good than to try to pacify your problems and lead you down a destructive path. The goal is to learn how to walk this life out with a healthy perspective and wisdom, how to navigate Single in a positive way, and how to avoid the pitfalls that are so common for many.
This is not just beneficial for while you’re single!
It is a source of Bible-based principles that will be valuable to you both while you’re single and (if you desire to be married one day) when you’re married. We don’t need temporary band-aids. We need lifelong wisdom that we can carry with us through every season.
This is not advice from a therapist or a counselor.
It is a collection of thoughts based on the experience of a woman who, in some way or another, is like you. My personal story is that I grew up in church loving God, but through most of my teen and young adult years, I struggled with Single. I wanted out as soon as possible. I knew God wanted me to find contentment in Him, but I couldn’t figure out how to forget about wanting companionship.
This is a journey. It’s based on details as I have known them in my life and the lives of people around me, but I truly hope you can find points of commonality with your own journey. I hope that by doing so, your journey is a lot happier and healthier than mine was when all I could focus on was getting UN-single as soon as possible!
So would you come along with me? We’ll relate what the Scripture says to our lives, we’ll throw in some good ol’ common sense and valuable life experience, and we’ll learn that Single isn’t really the villain in our lives, and we really aren’t victims! In fact, we’ll see how God’s hand has been leading us all along, and we’ll find joy in the journey as we explore the softer side of Single!
Happy journeys to you today!
